She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. That being said, when you marry a doctor, you marry the profession too. And to be fair, he always does contact me to see each other eventually So while some of his behavior makes me question stuff, other times I feel like this is just a phase due to his residency and maybe this is worth hanging on for down the road. I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. Doctor's often set their priorities as: When I give my husband the "busy as hell" attitude he gets worried about our relationship. No nagging, no emotional neediness, etc. But it does make it hard for me to develop and strengthen our relationship.
She doesn't want to marry you. Just stumbled across this site today after trying to find ways to help me cope with dating a Doctor. Gem With Flaws Joined: While I do talk to my boyfriend everyday, it's usually not for long periods of time. So if you are dating a Mormon guy, always wear knee-length, avoid tiny shorts, mini skirts, short or revealing dresses, plunging necklines, or sleeveless tops. Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old. I do wonder if you ask this blog just to get supporting advice. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. And I never found that "good Mormon girl". BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married.
Females are not expected to serve and MOST of the girls that do, only do so because they do not have a suitable read: If your GF is an attractive girl and still ended up on a mission then she is about as fanatical as they come and if she isn't already she will be slowly trying to convert you. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. We attempted to date back when I was in undergrad and he was in med school, and it went nowhere -- mostly because I was young, immature, self-centered and your typical spazzy college kid at that point. There was a decrease in pay but an increase in our quality of life already. Usually, when Mormon girls marry non-Mormon men, these women forsake their religion and revert to ordinary American woman. I actually had one of my friends say to me, " why are you worried about what he is doing when you aren't there he spends hundreds of dollars on you when you are there who cares that he hasn't texted you". In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. They are taught to refrain from smoking, drinking, or experimenting with drugs. We Finally spent a week alone together for our anniversary and it was glorious. God works by small and simple means to bring about His great and eternal purposes.
Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. It also seems like he's into it based on how he acts around me and the things he says. I mostly attribute this to lack of sleep, but I also think he is treated better as a fellow -- by everyone. Our relationship is not perfect, not easy, but absolutely amazing. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. On the plus side though, after you leave the church, you'll get to spend the remainder of your days bashing it on Reddit. After a certain point "support" stops being supportive and turns into enabling - enabling of his depression, his anxiety, his reluctance to reflect deeply on who he is and what he wants out of life, and worst of all, my "support" ensures his continuation into a career that will not ultimately make him or me happy. It really helped to make me feel better.