Of course my parents love each other very much and would not choose another spouse, which is why her response caught me off guard. The big one is that under Mormon theology both of you must be believing, fully active members to live together in the afterlife. It has always been like this.
She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. Sadly, my ward shuns us. He will eventually have more time for you, but right now he is likely giving you all the time that he can, even though it is very little. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up. To them, everyone is either TBM, hasn't learned the truth yet, or has some kind of personal failing laziness, desire to sin, allowed themself to be deceived by satan, etc.
I tell her there's no pressure and we'll just see how things play out. I am not quite a spouse of a doctor. I was thinking about this last night after listening to Radio West. Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems. Oh this is a great set of questions. That was literally over years ago. This does not mean that you cannot do those things, but remember that she will not be able to do them with you. Doctors are, for the most part, extremely responsible and determined. He sees all families being able to stay together.
He may never want anything to do with Mormons or the church again. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue the relationship, but I'd only recommend marrying her if she leaves the church because she discovers it's not true. Which is an absolute lie. You never walks you'll never know. Of course they do. Because of the nature of this job, it was not uncommon for him to be at the hospital overnight or to be called back in for an emergency surgery. In many ways, you yield some authority to the church. Expect that you will do the majority of parenting and attend school functions alone.
