And his wife is angry and unappreciative and has no idea how difficult his profession is. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. Also, as Joanna points out, men and women already inhabit a separate culture. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. We've been together since he started medical school.
So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date's beliefs before going on a date. Sorry that you went through that. I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. Today was his day off and not one word from him.
We are in a predicament, because we are Jewish and it is difficult to get married between April and November during day light savings time because the sun sets much later which elongates our sabbath and makes it difficult to start a wedding at a reasonable time. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. Am I wrong to hope for this. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely. No one should feel excluded from the House of the Lord. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. It is a tradeoff at best.
And after dating a few months we both knew we wanted to get married. But he feels I need to stick to one career and be content. Wow, every word resonates. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. I believe rules are to be obeyed. This woman is a human being, not a caricature of a TBM. I don't think we could have a real conversation about those points either. They are at the service of others at the expense of their family. Even if she does, you'll be the reason in her family's eyes. First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed.