I know you got a zillion replies, and I have not read them. Today, I actually feel like I might literally go insane. There are such things as perfect loving families though.
You are a good person and she can see that. Also, as Joanna points out, men and women already inhabit a separate culture. When you try to explain to them why the church would not publish said info on their own website they get mad at you and tell you you're ignorant. The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year. First, my dad was a wonderful husband to my mother the greatest mom on earthand a wonderful father to me.
If you can love them unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. You have to be willing to share him with his education process. He believes in God, but also believes that God is everywhere, and therefore does not need to be worshipped in a specific place of worship with specific prayers. It is important especially when you have children to make time for your partner regardless of his job. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. It did not go well. Until our marriage, I was living a care free life when I would do things as I please. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. I told her that is noble but she would be selfish to marry and work 80 hour work weeks yet if she does marry I can not see any man who would selflessly give over decades for the sake of his wife's career. Log into your account.
I stand by my original statement. I think we need to steer far away from medicine…. Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. Not the end of the world. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport. So, one would one think, "yay, she works, has a life and friends and has avoided the ongoing loneliness and "empty nest syndrome". My husband is in his last year of residency. Ask questions, try to find out as much as you can. I met this girl a while ago and we really hit it off.