The religion rather, and more importantly, the church itself is integral to most mormons' identity. I'd try to see if she will leave the religion, and if not, you should break it off. One small thing to add here. It is easier and more enjoyable for him to zone out in the world of sweat and toil much like his school and training and work than to get to know me.
I grew away from mine as my husband then-boyfriend slowly grew closer to his Mormon faith. He told me that the ER doesn't share and I'm pretty much the mistress to the hospital. She sounds like she is worth the extra work. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday. It's a foolish dream I suppose. There are two ways to go about this.
We have moved four times to 3 different states to accommodate his career, and had 3 children along the way. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around.
You are the woman of valor eshet khayil sung about by Solomon in Proverbs 31 http: Good for you, good for your husband, and definitely good for your childen. We're giving it to you straight because we hope to help you avoid the heartache many of us have experience due to the harmful teachings of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. You should take all of the above advice to heart and follow it just in case, so you can make a smooth transition should it ever be necessary. They know that they are the best. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no sense to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible. You can be very committed to someone but only be able to fit them in the limited free time you have. This is not about either of you individually. But he's got to know the aggravation and pain that he likely will face. Single parent when I met her.